tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post192734271249538578..comments2023-04-27T07:55:06.203-05:00Comments on Shattered into one piece: EnmeshedShatteredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-77251795304819757912010-09-17T07:13:23.994-05:002010-09-17T07:13:23.994-05:00I'm really impressed and inspired by you and y...I'm really impressed and inspired by you and your honesty and your courage. I'm sad that you've gone through so much pain, but I'm so happy I found your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-41689524785084874642010-02-05T15:31:23.914-06:002010-02-05T15:31:23.914-06:00Phoebe, I am pleased that you are here to read and...Phoebe, I am pleased that you are here to read and respond. You are not required to have a rough life to read here. ;) I like that I have a diverse group of readers here. :)<br /><br />I know that I can get a little raw and revealing here so I am privleged to have people who continue to listen and support me. Thank you.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-85055516789422241302010-02-05T14:10:37.689-06:002010-02-05T14:10:37.689-06:00I was not very familiar with your blog... but I fe...I was not very familiar with your blog... but I feel I've entered a very personal place and I feel privelaged to even read your thoughts and share your experiences. <br />I am not very good at saying things to comfort.. I have lived a very happy life and it is hard for me to relate to your pain/confusion/???. But I am here, and I can listen and read. <br /><br />Not only are you helping yourself to cope and move on through your blog, you are revealing so many human conditions to your readers. <br /><br />I am honored to be a part of your therapeutic process.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-43280229339108113742010-02-05T10:27:45.345-06:002010-02-05T10:27:45.345-06:00Just Be Real, I am sorry that you are going throug...Just Be Real, I am sorry that you are going through this with you own mother. It certainly is a difficult thing to break free of. Take care...Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-55259374962689991492010-02-05T10:26:55.815-06:002010-02-05T10:26:55.815-06:00Both Eyes, let's hope that there's light s...Both Eyes, let's hope that there's light somewhere in all of this. Thanks for reading.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-64678070953959662112010-02-05T10:26:20.116-06:002010-02-05T10:26:20.116-06:00ER, yeah, I have been sparing whith my husband whe...ER, yeah, I have been sparing whith my husband when it comes to information about my father.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-4972632140830968102010-02-05T05:27:30.174-06:002010-02-05T05:27:30.174-06:00Dear one my heart cries out to you. I can relate ...Dear one my heart cries out to you. I can relate on many things, the enmeshing with my mother has and to a point now (since I am working on breaking away) so devastating. Be gentle with yourself dear....<br /><br />(((((Hugs))))Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-17464027688258060732010-02-04T15:13:54.279-06:002010-02-04T15:13:54.279-06:00Your only solace, Shattered? This place doesn'...Your only solace, Shattered? This place doesn't look much like a bastion of peace and safety, but you're sounding very -- introspective -- these days. Who knows? Maybe there's light in the darkness, somewhere. Perhaps somewhere nearby.<br /><br />Anyhow, you know how I feel about SIOP: I come for the writing.<br /><br />Thanks for not hiding.<br /><br /><br />-BothAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-43301135592024664132010-02-04T13:50:01.649-06:002010-02-04T13:50:01.649-06:00I had misunderstood. I thought he knew. I agree th...I had misunderstood. I thought he knew. I agree that is a huge subject to introduce. Hugs, E.R.English Riderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01712384532126551307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-58932224892371911192010-02-04T12:21:37.792-06:002010-02-04T12:21:37.792-06:00Deborah, I'm doing OK. I'm sleeping a lot...Deborah, I'm doing OK. I'm sleeping a lot which is unusual for me. I'm still very torn between all my emotions and I still can't seem to separate my grief. Strangely, this happened when my mother and sister died as well; I couldn't decide who to grieve for and that was so confusing. <br /><br />And now that strange yet familiar feeling is back; except that this is grief over one physical person who was two very different people to me.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-222534769121541022010-02-04T12:18:27.565-06:002010-02-04T12:18:27.565-06:00Vikki, thank you for reading and sharing here. I ...Vikki, thank you for reading and sharing here. I really like your blog and the artwork that you have been creating. It is very powerful.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-29713121216884524092010-02-04T12:17:03.293-06:002010-02-04T12:17:03.293-06:00"What I see is that you are growing up straig..."What I see is that you are growing up straighter from the twisted trunk. You were twisting around to free yourself, but also to turn back and be with him. Circling around, twisting. Now you're reaching up, straightening. Maybe you'll turn back toward him less and less as he dissolves into that ground."<br /><br />Ruth, I like this picture. I do feel like I have grown in very distorted ways and you put it perfectly. I do hope that I am able to look back to him less and less; I certainly know that would be more healthy.<br /><br />Thank you again for your insight. I'm grateful that I have had the chance to look at this side of my relationship with my parents.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-74848842122454152862010-02-04T12:13:45.118-06:002010-02-04T12:13:45.118-06:00Friko, I am trying to find my normal. But that is...Friko, I am trying to find my normal. But that is frightening too. You are right, the abuse is over and that does give me hope. There are times where I find myself relieved more than anything else and quietly I hope that those times become more frequent.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-28915727313713338142010-02-04T12:10:57.981-06:002010-02-04T12:10:57.981-06:00Malefic, thank you for visiting and reading.Malefic, thank you for visiting and reading.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-2702178907575534772010-02-04T12:10:22.537-06:002010-02-04T12:10:22.537-06:00"You've lost your father, who meant a gre..."You've lost your father, who meant a great deal to you. Never mind what that entailed, the loss is something to mourn.<br /><br />You hope? You are hoping? That's essential."<br /><br />Deborah, it is so hard not to weave in all that our relationship contained. I really do wish that I was able to separate it and just grieve for him as a father. Problem is, he was never one of those.<br /><br />And yes, hope, I do have some. It is a small amount but I think it is enough.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-44883014436133060852010-02-04T12:07:47.388-06:002010-02-04T12:07:47.388-06:00Ang, thank you for the reminder. I know I am bad ...Ang, thank you for the reminder. I know I am bad about taking care of myself. None of this is easy, that's for sure. I tend to be all or nothing so I'm working to keep some sort of balance in all of this to where I am moving in some direction while still being safe.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-33374046746601109542010-02-04T12:05:12.196-06:002010-02-04T12:05:12.196-06:00Sarah, strong... I'm not so sure about but I a...Sarah, strong... I'm not so sure about but I am safe... and that's a good thing.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-31321971475919215232010-02-04T12:04:22.561-06:002010-02-04T12:04:22.561-06:00"The only thing I would say is that I can'..."The only thing I would say is that I can't see anything impure about it. A loss is a loss is a loss. And if your psychic-space hoggin' Daddy is dead then that's a pretty damn big loss from my perspective."<br /><br />The Pliers, thank you for understanding. I guess it just feels impure because there is nothing good or pure about the relationship we had. I have always felt guilty about my feelings for him and that still continues. Thank you for sharing your version of normal as well; it helps knowing that I'm not the only one.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-23352857838478255912010-02-04T12:01:18.974-06:002010-02-04T12:01:18.974-06:00California Girl, I'm so sorry that happened to...California Girl, I'm so sorry that happened to your son. I hope he has been able to make a full recovery.<br /><br />I have been told on multiple occasions that this wasn't my fault but that is so very hard to believe. I have moments where I believe it but I have many others where I carry the burden of this solely.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-8994850511518748832010-02-04T11:57:35.281-06:002010-02-04T11:57:35.281-06:00Just glad to see you responding here.Just glad to see you responding here.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-67114825825132259652010-02-04T11:53:08.535-06:002010-02-04T11:53:08.535-06:00ER, I have no idea how to even begin this conversa...ER, I have no idea how to even begin this conversation with my husband. He knows nothing of this. I know... it's not a good thing that it is like this but I don't know how to un-do this. My husband is a good man but I honestly don't know how healthy all this information would be for our marriage. <br /><br />I don't know...Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-18848852567537269262010-02-04T11:45:07.226-06:002010-02-04T11:45:07.226-06:00Rhonda, I'm sad that I grew up in that environ...Rhonda, I'm sad that I grew up in that environment too. I'm hanging in there though...Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-75230386029605808602010-02-04T11:44:11.368-06:002010-02-04T11:44:11.368-06:00Andrea, as always, thank you!Andrea, as always, thank you!Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-24898014382529015562010-02-04T04:08:57.467-06:002010-02-04T04:08:57.467-06:00Jennifer, how are you doing?Jennifer, how are you doing?Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-3395778716438079612010-02-04T03:56:06.676-06:002010-02-04T03:56:06.676-06:00Thank you for visiting at my blog and for your gen...Thank you for visiting at my blog and for your generous comment. This is just such a moving post for me. I admit I have nothing profound to say, only that I hear you, I already relate to you, you are a tender soul with so much to offer. I am so very sorry for your pain, this story of loss and confusion you tell here is making me want to write about my feelings surrounding losing my father. I really get you. Take care and keep expressing this, it is good.VICKI IN AZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04280804639839673447noreply@blogger.com