tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post2581686597092104505..comments2023-04-27T07:55:06.203-05:00Comments on Shattered into one piece: SkeletonsShatteredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-3219104206840778762011-09-29T18:33:29.201-05:002011-09-29T18:33:29.201-05:00The best help in the world is sometimes on the tip...The best help in the world is sometimes on the tip of your pen or the tap of your keyboard.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049511202014141182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-16288670068108617482011-09-24T06:17:21.220-05:002011-09-24T06:17:21.220-05:00Jen, sorry for you pain. Yes, shame is very damag...Jen, sorry for you pain. Yes, shame is very damaging. Here supporting you and safe hugs.....Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-25570786705114010612011-09-23T23:56:34.609-05:002011-09-23T23:56:34.609-05:00I so agree with Deborah.You were not to blame, no...I so agree with Deborah.You were not to blame, no child ever is for abuse of any kind.Responsibility for that rests firmly on the shoulders of those adults who abused. It is their bag, let them have it back, keep it and free yourself of the burden.Easy to say, harder to achieve but so worth the effort.Perhaps in time you will be ready to delete, a significant gesture for your future.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-57936927899007366752011-09-23T13:21:44.504-05:002011-09-23T13:21:44.504-05:00Jennifer, I'm hope I'm not being disingenu...Jennifer, I'm hope I'm not being disingenuous when I suggest that the shame you feel could better be interpreted as shame <i>for them</i>. What you feel can't be intellectualized away, I know, but you know that no child - not you, not anyone - is ever to blame for what adults do. <br />Why re-read? Why not delete? Not out of shame, but out of letting go, maybe.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.com