tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post804135736043715877..comments2023-04-27T07:55:06.203-05:00Comments on Shattered into one piece: VicesShatteredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-11809056732378418182010-03-08T10:38:16.047-06:002010-03-08T10:38:16.047-06:00"The journey may be difficult but it is one o..."The journey may be difficult but it is one of the ways you will learn to respect yourself. It is worth every step. Happiness really does lie at the end of this journey. Hang in there. We'll be here for you if you need us."<br /><br />Rising Rainbow, thank you for the encouragement. I really do want to be happy and it helps to hear someone in my shoes say that it is possible. :)Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-20836540826958454492010-03-08T10:36:51.107-06:002010-03-08T10:36:51.107-06:00Jeanette, I like your title too. :) I know all ab...Jeanette, I like your title too. :) I know all about the picking... that is a really hard one to break when you do it and don't even realize you are doing it. <br /><br />"It's good to be back, to be catching up with what others are feeling, thinking, doing. Know how supported you are... and respected."<br /><br />I'm glad you are back and catching up too. I'm looking forward to doing the same... :)Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-64469730866102546542010-03-08T10:34:21.238-06:002010-03-08T10:34:21.238-06:00K, I'm starting to see what you mean about the...K, I'm starting to see what you mean about the clarity of mind when you don't drink. It's nice not to wake up foggy and tired. It is also nice to remember going to bed and not having the evening before feeling like a blur.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-43745018469723472762010-03-08T10:32:52.668-06:002010-03-08T10:32:52.668-06:00Deborah & Saranne, thank you for thinking of m...Deborah & Saranne, thank you for thinking of me and checking in. You both are very kind. :)Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-65126687934954149962010-03-08T10:31:57.575-06:002010-03-08T10:31:57.575-06:00Kathryn, I'm pretty methodical too. I like th...Kathryn, I'm pretty methodical too. I like the idea of making a list of alternatives and I've been doing some of that. Thanks for the ideas and the support!Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-70846717685945504442010-03-08T10:30:47.748-06:002010-03-08T10:30:47.748-06:00Betty, thank you for reading and commenting! I do...Betty, thank you for reading and commenting! I do have a creative side and I do love to draw, sew, paint, etc and I have been doing much more of that. :)Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-27197121290426857622010-03-08T10:29:25.805-06:002010-03-08T10:29:25.805-06:00Friko, thank you for your encouragement and suppor...Friko, thank you for your encouragement and support. It means alot.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-33727956767343422202010-03-08T10:28:40.855-06:002010-03-08T10:28:40.855-06:00Annie, obsessed with good things certainly beats o...Annie, obsessed with good things certainly beats obsessing over the bad. I just wrote about it but I've thrown myself into my quilting and it helps. Thank goodness for creative outlets!Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-73161829378776871452010-03-08T10:27:17.068-06:002010-03-08T10:27:17.068-06:00"Jennifer, in talking with others, I knew tha..."Jennifer, in talking with others, I knew that I didn't need to face anything alone--that I was NOT alone. And you aren't alone either. There are so many of us out there--people just like you who have taken a drink, or a drug, or who have eaten and purged to try to mask our inner pain. There's a lot of hope for you, Jennifer--and I truly believe you are making great strides in healing yourself. Don't let anyone shut you down."<br /><br />Thank you, Melinda. It helps more than just about anything to remember that I'm not alone. It also helps, coming from you, to hear that I'm taking good steps. Thank you for your encouragement.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-10889385320295277892010-03-08T10:24:45.789-06:002010-03-08T10:24:45.789-06:00Maggie, thank you. Those voices are loud at times...Maggie, thank you. Those voices are loud at times but I do my best to only believe my own.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-23791676690550891612010-03-07T18:55:39.267-06:002010-03-07T18:55:39.267-06:00Wow, standing up and taking responsibility for you...Wow, standing up and taking responsibility for your actions! Very impressive!<br /><br />It's the hardest step of all I think. Few people really take responsibility for themselves. You should be proud of yourself! I know I'm proud of you.<br /><br />The journey may be difficult but it is one of the ways you will learn to respect yourself. It is worth every step. Happiness really does lie at the end of this journey. Hang in there. We'll be here for you if you need us.Rising Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04239592070775412669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-70832468371409870272010-03-07T14:34:06.888-06:002010-03-07T14:34:06.888-06:00Your honesty in writing this brought tears to my e...Your honesty in writing this brought tears to my eyes. I pick sometimes, mostly in my sleep. I am ashamed, still, though I work on it... hard to figure it all out when most of it is in my sleep, but I know it's the sign that I am working on unresolved issues. "Vices." I wonder at the word, only because of the connotative quality. You have some issues you want to address and addictive problems to work on stopping. When I think of VICE, I think of willful breaking of sins to be "bad." Eating someone ELSE'S chocolate. Adultery to hurt another. VICE. <br /><br />So forgive me if I would not call this entry that. I think being as honest in as public a forum and you have just been... I'd title this "Courage to Begin." Or something like that. You are wonderful, Shattered. Just wonderful.<br /><br />SO THERE. It's good to be back, to be catching up with what others are feeling, thinking, doing. Know how supported you are... and respected.JeannetteLShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13528285846408727632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-29662923247745077832010-03-07T12:29:15.950-06:002010-03-07T12:29:15.950-06:00I'm totally impressed and overwhelmed (and eve...I'm totally impressed and overwhelmed (and every other positive attribute that I could think of) by your honesty, <br /><br />In my experience the huge benefit to not drinking on a sustained basis is the clarity my thinking took on. Or to put it another way, how unknowingly clouded my mind was even when I was technically not drunk. My life hasn't always been easy but the sense of balance and solidity within my head is a constant source of gratitude for me.-K-https://www.blogger.com/profile/03289562368002376807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-71138798868612165872010-03-05T17:55:25.614-06:002010-03-05T17:55:25.614-06:00Jennifer -
Hadn't heard from you in a while, ...Jennifer -<br /><br />Hadn't heard from you in a while, and just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts! Hugs, Saranne OXSarannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13644029051120698745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-19817780725603052592010-03-02T07:10:01.649-06:002010-03-02T07:10:01.649-06:00Dear Jennifer,
Just came by to see if you are all...Dear Jennifer, <br />Just came by to see if you are all right and tell you that even when you're not around, you're in my thoughts.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-45721245720038912172010-03-02T00:14:55.793-06:002010-03-02T00:14:55.793-06:00Hi there,
I guess that most of out here might gues...Hi there,<br />I guess that most of out here might guess that you use the alcohol to forget, the food to comfort, and the cutting to control.<br />Could you make a list of alternative ways to forget (safer diversions), comfort (non-food related), and control (maybe starting with breathing and , as someone else suggested, yoga?). I am such a methodiacal person that this is the way I would tackle it, but of course this may not work for you. Do I sound like a therapist? I'm not; I'm just a list- oriented person.<br />You sound like you are on the road to recovery, even though you may not feel like you are. All the best with making changes!Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11305293775583665402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-79218062054526124862010-02-27T23:19:57.260-06:002010-02-27T23:19:57.260-06:00I have just started reading you. Someone said &quo...I have just started reading you. Someone said "a problem well stated is a problem half solved" - I believe you are walking on the Recovery Road - I feel sure you will get there - to a place where you can accept yourself most of the time. A place where you will pretty much always know you have a best friend who loves you - that friend will be you.<br />If you are looking for new things to do you might want to buy a sketch book and a few artists pencils ......<br />Somehow I don't think you are an alcoholic either - [LOL what does your husband know? He only lives with you!] - I guess you will know soon enough if you stop drinking?<br />take care and good luck,<br />BettyBetty Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552340264000998419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-39949821009280942732010-02-27T16:12:50.163-06:002010-02-27T16:12:50.163-06:00I am sorry I haven't been to visit, I've b...I am sorry I haven't been to visit, I've been a bit poorly. I don't want you to think that I've gone away for any other reason.<br /><br />For now all I can say is, be kind to yourself, learn to like yourself, not hurt yourself. The hurt must stop. If you can accept yourself for who you are then so will others. Others will take their cue from you.<br /><br />Your vices are just that, vices; vices can be dropped. unlearned.<br /><br />You have a future.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-54388271762965966472010-02-26T21:35:48.936-06:002010-02-26T21:35:48.936-06:00This is awesome. You know what to do and I believe...This is awesome. You know what to do and I believe you will start doing it. One vice at a time, replace these things with healhy, fun things you love that don't hurt you. I am a bit obsessive, so I decided to become obsessed with good things, like art and nature.<br />it has worked wonders for me. I know you can do this, one little step at a time.<br />Love and hugs,<br />xoxoAnnie Coehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980814479525038344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-13333201074001841902010-02-23T12:57:51.567-06:002010-02-23T12:57:51.567-06:00Jennifer, you have made a huge step in admitting t...Jennifer, you have made a huge step in admitting that you have problems that feel overwhelming to you. So many people will never even face the fact that they have an issue that needs to be addressed, such as drinking too much, or bulimic behaviors, or anything. For you to face that is the biggest step of all--believe me. <br /><br />Once you face the fact that you have some big issues that you need help with, I believe that help will come. I so strongly urge you to consider finding some support groups. Early in my recovery, I cannot tell you how helpful it was for me to find support in two different groupos: Narcotics Anonymous and also a support group for survivors of sexual abuse and incest. It helped me enormously to listen to how others had overcome the same types of challenges and problems that I was facing. <br /><br />Jennifer, in talking with others, I knew that I didn't need to face anything alone--that I was NOT alone. And you aren't alone either. There are so many of us out there--people just like you who have taken a drink, or a drug, or who have eaten and purged to try to mask our inner pain. There's a lot of hope for you, Jennifer--and I truly believe you are making great strides in healing yourself. Don't let anyone shut you down. <br /><br />If you should ever need help or a kind ear to talk to--email me melinda @ melindaville. I'd do anything I could to help.<br /><br />Take care, Jennifer--and here's a big ((((((hug)))))) for you, my friend.<br /><br />MelindaMelindahttp://blog.melindaville.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-88916174321459754212010-02-23T12:52:14.860-06:002010-02-23T12:52:14.860-06:00Jennifer I like what you said to Malefic-'Hand...Jennifer I like what you said to Malefic-'Hand in there and try and take care of yourself.' Your inner wisdom is there. I see you as the light and love that you are. Don't believe any voices that say any different.maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695675141316914425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-10854683508577465032010-02-23T11:32:01.286-06:002010-02-23T11:32:01.286-06:00Malefic, it is scarey isn't it?? I try not to...Malefic, it is scarey isn't it?? I try not to think about what I'm trying to give up because each time I do I work myself into a nice little panic. Hang in there and try and take care of yourself.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-50123573920250384062010-02-23T11:30:31.504-06:002010-02-23T11:30:31.504-06:00Ang, thank you for your understanding, that means ...Ang, thank you for your understanding, that means a great deal to me. I like what you did with the contracts on the inside; that's a great idea for while you are working on the root issues. As always, thank you for your support.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-73727055696450483192010-02-23T11:28:25.179-06:002010-02-23T11:28:25.179-06:00Deb W., it does make a big difference when people ...Deb W., it does make a big difference when people receive us with grace doesn't it? I am sorry that you are dealing with many of my same issues. Take care...Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-42784597673837825062010-02-23T11:26:53.616-06:002010-02-23T11:26:53.616-06:00Grace, baby steps work better than big ones doen&#...Grace, baby steps work better than big ones doen't they?? It's a hard adjustment for me to do this because I'm such an "all-or-nothing-person" but I'm trying.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.com