tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post8513769333950512025..comments2023-04-27T07:55:06.203-05:00Comments on Shattered into one piece: ReliefShatteredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-42454210206042155542009-12-05T22:42:53.097-06:002009-12-05T22:42:53.097-06:00I am sitting here, trying to think of what to writ...I am sitting here, trying to think of what to write, because I want to let you know I was here, reading, thinking about how terrifying it must have been, thinking about the helplessness of children, who absorb it all, soak it up, and how as adults we carry our pain around, destined to pass it along unless we are aware and consciously break the cycle.<br /><br />And you do write beautifully.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07959874504681715396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-66984797648574268622009-12-03T09:44:50.979-06:002009-12-03T09:44:50.979-06:00Friko, I am glad that I am able to write about the...Friko, I am glad that I am able to write about these things now and find ways to express myself. I write from a unique perspective; I know that. It's just how my mind works and how I deal with my past. As I am writing I am assimilating a memory as I "talk" to another "friend" in my mind. Weird... I know and probably hard to describe and understand.<br /><br />I do hope your friend will visit. We all have unique experiences and we can all learn from each other.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-63904980161628830002009-12-03T09:36:57.112-06:002009-12-03T09:36:57.112-06:00Andrea, I am so sorry that you had to endure simil...Andrea, I am so sorry that you had to endure similar things. No child should have to grow up like we did. Thank you for reading; I look forward to getting to know you too. :)Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-81653215948278008792009-12-03T09:34:45.461-06:002009-12-03T09:34:45.461-06:00Melinda, both of your comments made it through; th...Melinda, both of your comments made it through; thank you for both. :) You are right, unfortunately you and I are not alone. However, as much as I don't wish this for anyone it is nice to know that there are others, like yourself, who understand. Thank you for your encouragement.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-86503476478800339972009-12-03T09:31:53.266-06:002009-12-03T09:31:53.266-06:00Deborah, I have days where I feel pain for my moth...Deborah, I have days where I feel pain for my mother as well. She had it rough growing up and then she married my father and pretty much sealed her fate. I am nothing like her but there are days where I am feeling particularly bad and those are the days where I tend to lash out. If she felt nothing but horrible, I can see where her hate could have come from. It has been a difficult cycle to break; sometimes I still struggle with it. Fortunately, I have people around me who encourage me, love me and hold me accountable.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-45894023588273775662009-12-03T09:27:40.323-06:002009-12-03T09:27:40.323-06:00ER, you're right; I do have a future. Getting...ER, you're right; I do have a future. Getting there is the tough part but I know it will be worth it.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-56766499300836167682009-12-03T09:04:36.202-06:002009-12-03T09:04:36.202-06:00You know so well to express yourself now; the inar...You know so well to express yourself now; the inarticulate, hurt child is a grown woman who can name the pain and will be able to deal with it, little by little.<br /><br />Your writing is almost unbearably clear and direct, unsentimental and matter-of-fact. One day, these posts should be collected into a book. I have told my friend about your site and I sincerely hope that she will be brave enough to read your blog.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-24377287207944096072009-12-03T08:03:38.669-06:002009-12-03T08:03:38.669-06:00I am saddened as I read. It is if you are telling ...I am saddened as I read. It is if you are telling parts of my own story. However, I am here to tell you..You can overcome. It will always be with you...a part of what makes you a better person, b/c you care about others. We each have choices in life and I chose to take the horror of my childhood and use it for good and I can see here that you want to help others.<br />Blessings and prayers, andrea<br /><br />PS: I have joined to follow and look forward to getting to know you.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082891172963869545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-31505247638607296722009-12-02T16:38:03.475-06:002009-12-02T16:38:03.475-06:00I am returning to add that you are a good writer, ...I am returning to add that you are a good writer, independent of subject.English Riderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01712384532126551307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-11264608825921451342009-12-02T10:51:10.371-06:002009-12-02T10:51:10.371-06:00I'm not sure my last comment made it through, ...I'm not sure my last comment made it through, so I'll try again. Jennifer, this piece really brought tears to my eyes--I felt your pain, which brought back some memories of my own lost, helpless, and very alone feelings I had in my early childhood. Take care, my friend--and keep fighting.<br /><br />MelindaMelindahttp://blog.melindaville.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-32322881110567798162009-12-02T10:49:14.434-06:002009-12-02T10:49:14.434-06:00This piece just broke my heart, Jennifer--and it a...This piece just broke my heart, Jennifer--and it also brought back the memories of my own painful childhood of feeling lost, threatened, and so very alone. You have risen to meet so many of those early challenges and no matter what, Jennifer, you are making it. Your writing will help others--I know it has helped me put my own abuse into some perspective of being one of many people who suffered the same types of abuses that we did. You and I are (unfortunately) not alone in the sharing of that early pain in life. <br /><br />MelindaMelindahttp://blog.melindaville.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-8732852360061656142009-12-02T09:21:36.735-06:002009-12-02T09:21:36.735-06:00Even though you, the child, suffered most, I can&#...Even though you, the child, suffered most, I can't help but feel some pain for your mother. She would have shared your feelings that she was bad, had that 'if only people knew....' fear. She would have felt rotten to the core, and that rottenness possibly drove her to do more and more awful things to you. Were you ever able to discover what her childhood was like? <br /><br />Once again, I find it remarkable that you could break this cycle of self-hatred perpetuated on a defenceless child. <br /><br />You are a good person, Jennifer, and you were a perfectly ordinary, perfectly good child who deserved absolutely nothing of the abuse you received.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4123476681787448500.post-7159242806547934372009-12-01T22:32:18.797-06:002009-12-01T22:32:18.797-06:00Look to the future. You have one. You are not brok...Look to the future. You have one. You are not broken. You are a survivor. People care about you.English Riderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01712384532126551307noreply@blogger.com