I apologize for neglecting my blog. I've been in a weird place as of late and I suppose I've spent some time pretending that all this isn't happening. In my mind, if I don't write here then I must be fine. Right?
I got over the hump of the last integration only to slide downhill into a family mess. I have worked hard to keep my head above water and ignore the worry that comes with this shit. And I was doing a good job until last weekend.
A breach of my intimate trust occurred nearly five years ago when my husband and I were engaged. His relationship with his mother has always been strained for a number of complex reasons. In an attempt to share his life with her he shared with her about me, our relationship, and what seemed to be harmless details.
At least to him.
When he told me about their conversation I learned that he told her about my past and my Dissociative Identity Disorder. I have never believed that he did this with ill intent but I have always worried about her own ignorance of perception. Because she is a truly ignorant person.
And now their conversation, as I have always worried, has come back to bite me in the ass. For a whole other post about the reasons, she is angry with me for something I have no control over: my husband's relationship with his two kids from his previous marriage. To pay me back she has taken my disorder, skewed it's reality, and has shared it in an open email to any family member with an email address. All under the guise of "let's pray for her". Like all good Christians do... and I write those words dripping with truthful sarcasm.
My husband keeps telling me that she looks worse than anyone could ever think of me. I am having a hard time believing that. I'm also having a hard time not being angry with him. I know he didn't do this with the intent to hurt me five years later but the truth is that is exactly what is happening.
I have tried. I really have. But I am out of ideas or delusions that this is OK. It's not and it hurts terribly. I am horribly embarrassed and no matter what I don't see a way out of that feeling.
Hanging On No More
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